The more relationships you have, the better. You never know when they will come in handy. It’s always better to build relationships before you need them or before a conflict arises. A good relationship requires trust, respect, self-awareness, inclusion, and opens communication.
Building relationships can be as simple as saying ‘Hi’ to someone in the grocery store or to an employee from the next office. A friendly word or smile can make someone’s day, every one of us want to have close connections with our fellow humans. We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbours and friends.
However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.
Many relationships are unfulfilling because they lack real strength and real depth.
Here’re six ways for meaningful relationships building:
Be There for others
Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.
Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.
Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.
Meet More People
If you want to make friends, you have to go where the people are: picnics, conferences, events, fundraisers, parties, playgrounds, bowling alleys, little league games, bake sales, etc.
If you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.
If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.
This is why it’s important to meet more people
Give consistently, receive occasionally.
A great relationship is mutually beneficial. In business terms that means connecting with people who can be mentors, who can share information, who can help create other connections; in short, that means going into a relationship wanting something.
The person who builds great relationships doesn’t think about what she wants; she starts by thinking about what she can give. She sees giving as the best way to establish a real relationship and a lasting connection. She approaches building relationships as if it’s all about the other person and not about her, and in the process builds relationships with people who follow the same approach.
Realize when they have acted poorly.
Very few people apologize before they are asked to or even before anyone notices they should. Responsibility is a key building block of a great relationship. People who take responsibility, who say they are sorry and explain why they are sorry, who don’t try to push any of the blame back on the other person, those are people everyone wants in their lives, taking responsibility and saying sorry at the right time helps preserve relationships.
Integrity, as defined by the dictionary, is “the quality of being honest or having strong moral principles.” People with integrity are generally known to be trustworthy, honest, and kind.
This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them honest feedback, even when it’s hard to swallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.
This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.
Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.
Overcome your fear of rejection.
Most of us suffer from a fear of rejection, and there’s only one thing to do about that: get over it. If you want to form relationships, plan on being rejected some of the time. You will be richly rewarded the rest of the time with the new relationships you have made.