Ever been in a situation where you have to tell someone no? Getting rejected isn’t fun and having to reject someone isn’t a comfortable position either. Sometimes the hardest part of dating can be getting to tell someone you’re not interested and even after that, some people still won’t get the memo.
Rejection is not easy for anyone to deal with, especially men who most times wear their ego on their sleeves. Being rejected makes men feel emasculated and inferior.
Unfortunately, some men will take their pain or hurt of being rejected on others through guilt tripping, verbal attacks, and even physical violence.
As a lady, Having to turn down advances from men who are in superior positions to you for example a boss or someone with the advantage of a power dynamics over you can be pretty tricky and exhausting because some men do take rejection personally.
Hence it is important to know how to reject someone in an honest, clear and kind way, remember it is smart to be honest and direct. When you want to turn down a man, saying no out rightly might hurt. Try saying words like, “I think you are a wonderful person, but I just don’t feel any attraction for you. I’m sorry.
“I had a lot of fun on our date but I don’t feel that chemistry with you.”
“You seem like a great guy but I’m just not interested in you like that.”
“Thank you for the wonderful evening! I’m sorry but I don’t see us as compatible.”
“I am really thankful for all your nice words and your compliments, but I really need more time to figure out myself first. I am not sure if I want to be in a relationship right now, I am sure you understand.”
Do it over text – break the news over text, if you haven’t started dating this man or have gone for a date or two it’s not mean, it’s smart. When being rejected, a man’s ego is getting bruised. They’re overwhelmed with emotion and can lash out especially when alcohol is involved. And you don’t want to be there when that happens.
Don’t re-initiate communication unless you change your mind about dating them – loneliness or boredom shouldn’t be an excuse unless you’ve decided you want to pursue a romantic relationship. Otherwise, you’re going to re-spark his hope. And when it doesn’t work out again, he’s only going to feel worse.
Ignore Him – he might keeps messaging you thinking he could get you to change your mind. Don’t let him make you feel guilty and talk to him because of it. Don’t agree to be friends when you don’t want to be.
If you have a hard time ignoring him, block him, once you’ve rejected him and don’t engage him, most guys will move on.
Avoid putting it off – It’s common to wait until what feels like the “right time” when it comes to rejecting someone, but you’re best off making a move rather than waiting not to mention, he or she will also likely wonder why you didn’t end things sooner and may get angry that you weren’t more honest about your feelings.
Remember, you have the right to say no if you don’t like someone and you shouldn’t feel bad about it.