What men say vs. what they actually mean

They say men are very simple creatures while women are complex. When it comes to communication, the way men and women communicate is quite different. Women are known for being quite direct, although a little wordy in expressing themselves through long epistles and messages and this style of communication gives a partner all the details.

On the other hand, men are known for being less direct with fewer words in their communication style and this can leave a woman wondering what the hell he actually means.

Here’s a little guide for some of the basic things that men say and what they actually mean.

NETFLIX AND CHILL

We all know this one. It’s the perfect example of guys saying one thing and meaning something totally different. Netflix and chill doesn’t sound like, “Come over, let’s get naked and have sex.” But that is what he actually means.

I’M NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP

This either means that he already has a relationship but doesn’t want to say it because he just wants to have sex with you, or it could also mean that he is terrified of making commitments or simply doesn’t like you enough to date you!

I’M SORRY

Saying he is sorry doesn’t necessarily mean he’s actually regretting what he did. Usually he’s regretting that it upset you enough to make it a big enough deal that he now has to apologize.

YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL

He means this one, but he actually means so much more. If he is using this word, then he really finds you beautiful and you’re so much more than a piece of ass.

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I LOVE YOU

This is a phrase where timing matters. If he says it right before or during sex, he probably means he loves your body and having sex with you. If he says it any other time, he means ‘I really like you, you are an amazing woman and I don’t want to be with anyone else.”

CAN WE TALK ABOUT THIS LATER?”

He’s telling you “He’s not interested in having the conversation or ever discussing it for that matter.” He’s hoping you will eventually forget about it and let it go. As a woman who owns her worth, you will want to bring it up again because if it’s important you will need to talk about it. This can definitely add some extra tension to the conversation. So try approaching the discussion in a concise and calm manner to get your message heard.

MY EX WAS CRAZY”

What he really means is, “I made her crazy because I couldn’t give her what she wanted in the relationship.” It takes two to tango when it comes to making the relationship a top priority. Towards the end of the relationship, she most likely wasn’t getting her needs met. He mostly was over the relationship long before he ended it which led to her displaying emotional behaviors that were taken out of context or didn’t suit his preferences.

HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT GUY?

Okay, most of you have been asked this question before. He really wants to know, “Have you ever had sex with that guy.” Masculine men are very territorial over the woman they care about and they want to make sure you are all theirs. He may be jealous or feeling insecure and making sure you only have eyes for him now.

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I’M JUST KIDDING

If he uses this line, it’s probably because he said something rude that hurt your feelings. What he really means, “I’m not joking about what I said, but I’m sorry for hurting your feelings and trying to cover-up the joke.” More or less, probably best to let it go as its wise to pick your battles and not continue beating him down for a bad joke.

NOTHING – JUST SILENCE

Sometimes guys ghost you out of nowhere and there’s really nothing you can do. He doesn’t have the courage, to be honest about his feelings so instead he disappears into thin air. What he’s trying to tell you, “I’m not interested in you anymore or I met someone else.” This is a clear indication you need to cut your losses and know you are better off without him.

Editor’s note: The feature image (MCMacaroni and Don Jazzy) used is an illustration and has nothing related to the post.

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